Friday, 21 July 2017

No Uniform


My son goes to a non uniform school . . . 
I know I can hear alot of you going 'oh no, uniforms all the way'?
Well I disagree!  Why . . .
My son's school has no uniform as part of the belief, teaching and the ethos carried out throughout the school -  we are all individuals and should be allowed express ourselves.  Yes OK our clothes don't define us but a child more comfortable will sit and learn better.
The alternative in most schools -  stiff uncomfortable shirts, trousers they can't move in,  skirts that inhibit their playing, ties and heavy itchy jumpers and cardigans.  No my son gets to wear comfy tracksuit bottoms, t-shirt and a hoodie.

No I don't have more washing why would I?  Just like a uniformed child he gets more than one day out of his clothes and I have less washing because when he gets home from school he stays in the same outfit.  Unlike a uniformed child who you have to instruct to change out of their uniform straight away, because goodness what if it gets dirty and the second pinafore/pants you have aren't dry yet, Drama!!  And I also don't have the dreaded uniform race - you know the whole thing of get the uniform into the washing machine on Friday get it dried and ironed by Sunday night, i'm tired just writing about the whole pa-lava.

No it doesn't cost me more, it cost me less if anything because the clothes my son wears during school he wears at home after school and at the weekend he wears his jeans , with a t-shirt and hoodie.  Just like most people I buy the bits and pieces for school in the summer months so for example in Lidl this week I bought the tracksuit bottoms for €3.49, bargain and when there is sales on in other places I pick up t-shirts, hoodies, vest etc.


No, there isn't an issue with bullying and when I was researching schools this was one of the questions I specifically asked.  It doesn't matter if my sons runners are Nike or Dunnes, the children are thought that everyone is individual and not every family may have the same money to spend on certain big named brands.  Honestly its not an issue and I was assured and know this to be true that if something did come up it would b dealt with in a teaching way.

So not convinced then that's OK, just think of me on a Sunday evening when your pulling out that soaked uniform wondering how your going to get it dry for the morning,  I'll be sipping my tea happily once I've pulled something out of the wardrobe.





Thursday, 15 June 2017

Shit Mam

Did  you ever just have those moments where you feel like you're just being the shittiest mother?

Well that's me lately I don't know is it the ever looming summer holidays where its going to be full on entertainment 24/7.    I've had my low points three years of postnatal depression, hey bought the t shirt, swallowed the pills come out the other side.  Surely what ever funk I'm in I should be able to shake.

My kids are 4 and 6 yup precious ages, um well my two are at the lovely stage of telling me exactly what I'm doing wrong and goodness does it stink at times.  And often I take it so personally,  hubby will come to me and say their kids don't heed them but we differ on this parenting issue.  While yes OK in hindsight they're only starting to realize what may hurt, but I feel they should know that if they tell Mammy "she does nothing all day" that this merits a stern talking to.

Each age my kids have hit has come with it's issues, challenges call them what you like, but this last few weeks I've found myself just thinking what have I done wrong, why am I raising my voice so much ahhhhhhhhh they just aren't listening.

Do you know what STOP because,  just like me the kids are probably tired and need the up coming "rest".  I started out this post not really knowing where it was going but knowing I needed to hash it out through the keyboard.  So while I feel A little less Shit mother and today, tomorrow and the next I'm going to stop myself and just say, "No" breath and I'm not going to shout cause the only person I have to blame for feeling crappy is Me.
Now que the lovely pic of my kids hugging me . . .


Hey this was the best I could find because of course I take all the pictures I.m rarely in them 


Sunday, 5 February 2017

Get Your Walking Shoes On

Four weeks ago myself and my friend got our walking shoes on, to be honest we didn't know if we'd last two days.  But here we are four weeks later and alot of miles covered.  Like many out there we were walking for the obvious get fit loose, some weight and after Christmas there was a few extra pounds to shift.  Walking for me has always helped clear my mind so why I didn't get out of the house sooner I don't know.

"The difference it's made to my day"

I drop the kids to school then straight to meet my walking buddy and off we go.  We walk different routes each day and some days we de-tour to the shops after the walk to do messages or just browse. Now don't get me wrong there's no power walking involved here it's walking at a decent pace and having a chat as we go,  solving the woes of our lives!
Most mornings I wake up and just want to go back to sleep and I feel like I was where I was three years ago, an empty hole lost with everything falling in on me.  The feeling last only for a second as I see my clothes ready for me to get dressed into and I think right up and get ready for the walk.  Once I've got out and done the walk I'm so ready for the day.
I know this all sounds a bit "La La Land" but honestly getting out for a half hour walk will make all the difference to your day.  Don't take my word for it try it yourself, honestly it will help.
Stop all the excuses I've to clean the floors, do the laundry, cook the dinner, tidy the kids rooms and so on, believe me that will wait and you'll get those meanness tasks done in half the time after you've filled your lungs and mind with fresh air.
Look don't take my word for it
grab your coat, hat and scarf, wrap up and go for a walk, it's the best tonic . . .

Sunday, 15 January 2017

3 Parties, Awards and a Decision

Three birthday parties, one awards ceremony, countless trips up and down the same stretch of road, one big decision and a tried Mammy and tomorrow is Monday, sob!

It feels like it's Friday but no


I've spend my weekend in the car honestly I'm thinking of just throwing a sleeping bag in the car and buying a car plug-in kettle thing to make my tea and I'll be set up. I spent more time in the car this weekend then I did anywhere else.
My main outings this weekend were jungle gym places filled with screams, tears, cake, songs, referring etc. I've done lots of chit chat and had some good laughs, because lets be honest we go to our kids parties with a heavy heart thrown in with people who if given the choice we may not necessarily choose to spend time with.  I'm one of these annoying Mammies who wait at the party yup love or loath me I'm there I'll help where I can, but I'm there. I sit have a cuppa and chat with the other Mammy's also waiting around "swapping stories and advice". Who am I kidding we are there for the same reason . . .
Little Red Head had his first football awards ceremony this weekend I was really impressed we had three Mayo footballers and while what they said went totally over my sons head I was impress and encouraged that we are part of a club with such an invested interested in our youth.  It's that feeling of there's something out there for my kids in my community the three lads spoke so well and LRH was so excited about his cert.  I'm told I must purchase a frame ASAP.
Among all the car trips, parties and cake we as a family had to make a difficult decision this weekend.  Last November we entered into something that we thought would go very different and it hasn't.  When you start something and feel like you've failed and have to stop its difficult but when it's effecting those you love you haven't a choice.  We know as a family we've done the right thing but it wasn't easy, people will be disappointed and feel let done.
There you have it, I still feel like it's only Friday night, but my children had a brilliant weekend, I'm thankfully for the lovely parties they got invited to.  The fab friends they have, the mammies aren't half bad either.  The community spirit we got to be involved in on Saturday was special and I may be tired but it's better than being board. 

Friday, 13 January 2017

Hello from 2016

Ok it's 2017 and it's being soooooooooooooooo long since I blogged for one reason or another I just haven't had it in me to want to sit down and write/type.  Its a strange feeling I'd often be driving along in the car or lying in bed and write an entire post in my head but when it would come to sitting at the screen I'd just blank.
Now maybe it's the slight whisper of, it's a new year and all the jazz lets start a fresh, but I wouldn't be a big believer in that.   I feel your setting your self up to fail putting so much pressure on yourself, Ten goals to achieve by day ten with the outcome, ten stars etc.  AH it's stressing me just thinking of it.  I do think that there has being a shift as such in peoples attitudes,

Are We Getting Board of the Constant Go Go Go?

I thought it was just me who recently has felt that I'm always running and racing for others and that I just don't have enough time for me, my children, my husband, my life overall.  So I'm stopping myself and asking what I want to do for the day and where and what I want to get out of the day.  So many times I've found myself rushing round the house in a panic trying to dress two children and myself, get a bag ready for going out, get dinner on, only to realize I'm going by someones else schedule.  A lot of the times all it would take is a phone call to say look its going to take this amount of time to get ready I'll meet you somewhere or can you wait for me.  I've fallen into the trap of just saying yes possibly down to having children, yes is always easier!
Over the past week I've being chatting to friends and even just random chitter chatter out and about and I was surprised when people said

'sure if i'm late what about, 
I'm stopping the running and racing, 
I'm turning my mobile phone off'
I'm working to my own time'

We've turned into a world of constant on the go, mobile phones in our hands always checking the times, tipping the speeds limits in our cars and our bodies.  As I said I've being gone from blogging for a while so this piece is just me back and saying take a minuet, a breath and think of you.
I'm looking forward to 2017 and more blogging and 
Mammy Red Adventures x x x



Monday, 27 June 2016

Stare - Shame

Have you ever noticed someone looking at you or even staring at you?

I'm an adult so at least if I feel uncomfortable, I can move away, give a look back or say something, but what if you can't speak or don't realize that the stares are aimed at you . . .

I've worked in an area where staring is all people do but if you catch their eyes while they stare they'll quickly look away in shame.  When I worked with amazing individual children and adults and I'd catch a look I'd just hope it was only me that caught the look and not the special kind-hearted child or adult in my care. I'm also a Mammy currently of a typical three year old and I've thread these boards before.  So I've seen the side glances, heard the hushed remarks, but honestly I take them all with a pinch of salt. Frankly if the noise of my three year old screaming over a toy she cant have is annoying you; move away.  
I understand we're all guilty of staring at the unusual, hands up I've done it but I've tacked, I look at the beautiful the strange.  If my children ask a question about someone or something that may to them look different, I'll explain it to them or if I need to I'll ask the person themselves how they would like me to explain.
OK so why am I talking about this?

I innocently bought these dummies for Mini Miss recently in Dealz for €1.49 I thought the were funny and herself thought they were so cute.  Little did I realize the stares my little girl would get.  We walked around Galway city for the day and when Mini Miss was in her buggy she had the dummy with the moustache in her mouth most of the time, it had being a late night the previous night.  As we meandered around the shops more and more we noticed people staring sometimes some would say ah that's so funny or love it; both fine.  But when they stared in at Mini Miss she'd grunt and hide into her buggy, granted she was a bit cranky but the fact she had to turn her face away indicated the person had being starring to long.  One man in a shop, a charity shop came out form behind the counter to see what was on her face he said to me what's that?  What if my child had some kind of permanent mark on her face, I was stunned to think he came out from behind the counter to look into my child's buggy.



People please have some sense we are all different and beautiful in our own unique way, so yes it was only a fun dummy this time but next time you stare it may be what makes that person, it may just be part of them like your freckles, your hair, your eyes, your thin lips, your big lips, curve no curves, YOU, beautiful individual flawed you!

Tuesday, 14 June 2016

Keel Beautiful Keel

Cars packed we've narrowed down a laundry basket full of toys and a box full of toys to two neat backs packs.
 Tent  - check
Sleeping bags - check
sun cream  - check
midgie spray - check

And we're off, but where to?  It being the June bank holiday and you not being able to book camp sites in advance the frantic phone calls start, but alas if we can make it to Achill before 1 o'clock we are guaranteed a spot,     GO GO GO . . .

We arrive and the wrestle with the tent begins it only takes us half an hour to put it up, hubby is next to useless, note for next time just put it up alone I'd have it done in half the time.  No pegs don't go in that way there suppose to hold the guide wires; quay lots of sighing!  The "help" also from the 3 and 5 year old was truly invaluable ; quay more sighing and added heavy breathing.  Once all is up and our home for the next two days is sorted I take a step back and take in Keel Sandybanks Caravan and Camping Park ; stunning truly stunning. I'm Irish and I take for granted how beautiful Ireland is there's beach, mountains, green, lakes, sand dunes oh and a circus tent around me breath taking!
       

I was quickly taken out of my tranquil state with request to head to the beach so swim suits on and off we went.  I kid you not but the water was warm, I'm still investing in a wet suit but I was refreshed from my dip in the ocean. Mini Miss and Little Red Head loved it jumping over waves and chancing them to the shore.  Tired out for the whole of five minuets we headed back for food, which featured alot on our camping trip.
We headed on this trip on a very tight budget we spent €42 for camping for two nights then for the food I raided the cupboards at home and filled my many many little containers with food.  I brought our camping stove and on the first night we had spag bol which I cooked at home the previous day and the second evening we had burgers and sausages.  For lunch we had sambos and yogurts and through out the day we had the usual snacks and lots of fruit.  As a treat on one of the days the kids got chicken nuggets, outside the camp side there was a chip van and myself and hubby got soup and of course there was the ice cream van.  In total we spent €30 on food/snacks while in Achill.

Sandybanks Caravan and Camping Park itself is an excellent facility clean welcoming great access to the beach and lots to do there.  On the Saturday night I went over to the toilet blocks and one of the soap dispensers was empty and I thought to myself 'ah that wouldn't be filled now for the rest of the weekend' well I ate my words the following morning, soap dispenser was full again and at no stage were the toilets dirty but they were always busy.  The kitchen facilities were very good fridge filled to the brim but you'll always have that bins were always clean and the kitchen itself clean and tidy.  We didn't use the showers as there was an outdoor one just at the gate when you came in from the beach, but I sneaked a peak a few times and they were always clean.  There was a great entertainment room for the kids catering for baby to teen.  My two had great fun playing the air hockey at only €1 a game and chilling out watching the movie on the tv and of course no trip away would be complete without a playground my two had hours of fun here.


There favorite place was still the beach . . . 




Fresh air is great for the soul and great for putting the kids to sleep, one of my favorite things on camp was chilling at night with hubby playing card and having a drink you just cant beat sitting in the outdoors being eaten by the midgets and having a laugh over my lack of my ability to play 21.  On a serious note we found the citronella sticks great for keeping the midgies away.
Nothing but Class all the way - Rosa in a plastic cup
#classybird
On our last night I introduced the kids and hubby to smores, they had more fun making them than eating them . . .
I love camping and as many of you know I'm a Girl Guide and I'm camping since I was a tot with my Mam when she was a Guide.  Sharing these experiences with my hubby and kids is something money can't buy, I can't wait for more camping adventures and we'll definitely be back to Keel, Achill as there is so much we didn't do kayaking on the lake, visit the new aquarium go on the many walk and so much more.
All packed up and time for home